Married in a month?

I'm getting married next month at Christmas-time... I think. The whole thing is very impromptu. We want to have a private ceremony in a church, just the two of us with our maid of honor and best man. We aren't having any guests whatsoever. However, this is all very short notice, and we have no idea how to go about finding a church. Will a church even marry us on such short notice? Or if there are no guests? We're both Catholic, by the way, although I have not been confirmed. And we live in Pittsburgh, PA. Also, after the ceremony, we're having a private dinner for two at our favorite restaurant, where we got engaged at. Then we're going to see The Nutcracker ballet so that we can go again every year for our anniversary. Christmas time is just very special to us. So any tips on getting this done in a month? And how or if we can get a priest to marry us in a church? P.S. We are thinking about December 22 or 29, but we are obviously very flexible on the date. Suggestions?!?!Married in a month?
Go to the church and ask the priest. Money talks! = )
Sorry to say, but your chance of getting married in a Catholic ceremony are pretty much zero, regardless of how much money you have or even if you belong to the church. It is true that most parishes will not marry you unless you are members, although there are some exceptions.



First of all, pre-Cana classes and marriage preparation can take up to 6 months. It would be very hard to find a priest who can get around this. If you are not confirmed, you *may* have to take RCIA classes, which can be up to a year in length. You *may* be able to complete everything in 1 month if you choose an Engaged Encounter weekend, but I wouldn't bet on it.



The Catholic church rightfully takes marriage very seriously. You may be able to find a priest who will marry you, but I am almost certain you will not be able to.



I would focus on having a civil ceremony, and then have your marriage blessed at a later date.



As for the rest of your ideas, they sound GREAT! I also am having a Christmas wedding (Dec.21) this year, and would have had a private wedding if I could, believe me! It's my fiance that wanted a huge affair.



All you can do is call around.



Best of luck!Married in a month?
To get married in a Catholic church you have to go thru classes prior to the ceremony. They usually last 6 weeks. Some churches allow a marriage encounter weekend instead.

Sorry to bust your bubble, but the Catholic church takes your vows VERY seriously and they want you to know what it is you are getting into.
As a Catholic don't you both have to go through some type of counseling withthe preist firt. If so you better hurry. Good Luck.
Find a small church in your area and go in with your marriage license and talk to the minister.
As you are Catholic, you should ask your priest to marry you in a quiet ceremony. This really should be no trouble, providing that you have gone and gotten the marriage license prepared. Some may think it odd, but it is your life and as long as you are both happy with the decision, then there should be no question as to having it done quietly with no pomp or circumstances.



I proposed to my wife on July 4th in Salzburg where we had met a year before. Her pastor was on tour with the church choir and he married us 12 days later. Her mother flew over to be her Matron of honor; I had my friend from college there, so I had "the 8-foot Heather" as my best man.(she was 6 foot and wore 4 inch heels, hence the nickname). It was held at a friend's house on the balcony, and was wonderful. That was when we gave unto God what was God's; we had to wait until we flew home a month later to give unto Clinton what was Clinton's and make it legally binding (this time by the pastor at my church). We have had 7 great years.



All the best to you and your fiancee.



Dr.G
Yous guys should go to a courthouse if you do not have a church you attend.
Churches usually only marry their members. If you're determined to get married in a Catholic Church, you may need to wait until next year to carry out this plan.
Hi again Missy:



Do either you or your fiance belong to a parish now? If so....simply go in and speak with your priest on Monday! There is usually a pre-marriage class that you have to take. Since this is such short notice....I'm not sure if you will be able to be married in December...it just depends on what requirements THAT particular parish/diocese have. Where I live it's a one day thing....but it's only offered about 4 times a year...so you have to wait. Pittsburgh is a big city, though, so I'm sure it's different there.



Now, if neither of you belong to a certain parish now....that may be more difficult. However, don't give up!! Call a priest in the parish/church that you want to be married in and simply talk with them. Also, if it's a big church/parish, they may have a deacon assigned to that church. A deacon is also available for weddings. Call on Monday though!!



And....yes a priest will MOST CERTAINLY marry you with no guests! As a matter of fact....that is the kind of wedding most priests ENJOY the most!!! (I know cuz I work at a church)!! So, don't worry about that. It would be soooo pretty at Christmas, I agree. It's my favorite time of year! So pretty and decorated!



Good luck! Your plans sound great!
Since you aren't confirmed a priest might not marry you, but that doesn't mean there aren't other ministers that won't marry you. How important is it for you to be married in a church?

My friend got married similarliy last year in Pittsburgh. They had 2 months to plan. If you email me I'll get the contact information for you.

Talk to your fiance's priest %26amp; see what is possible. If a Catholic wedding isn't possible, google ministers in the area. Even if you can't do a church wedding there are plenty of gorgeous places around Pittsburgh. If you are going downtown for the ballet, make sure to get tons of good pictures on the incline %26amp; Mount Washington!!
best thing to do is pick up the phone and start asking around. since you're flexible somebody can surely fit you in.



are you set on a church wedding? and a priest?



if not you'll have even less trouble finding someone. we used a retired justice of the peace and actually set everything up about a week or two beforehand.



you can google "wedding officiants" in your area to figure out who else to call besides priests if thats an option for you.



if you're dead set on a church and a priest, how many ae there in your town? are you willing to drive to the next town?



if you have a lot of flexibility you can definately plan a wedding in a month.
Do you want to be married in the Catholic church? If yes, you might have a problem. But go and talk with the priest at your local Catholic church, if he is a progressive type of a guy, he probably will have no problem marrying you. If not, go find yourself a church of any denomination close to where you live and talk with the minister and see if he would be willing to marry you. As long as you can show the minister that you are committed to each other and plan on making this a life-time commitment, he would probably be happy to marry you. The first step is going and talking with the Priest or Minister as soon as you possibly can. Since you are not having a big blow out wedding and just a short and sweet marriage ceremony, they will probably be able to accommodate just about anything.
I was just married in the Roman Catholic church %26amp; you need a minimum of 6 months notice. You have to choose a date.church and then have your priest call %26amp; give the preist of your chosen church (if not your local parish) permission to marry you. Then you have to meet with the priest who you intend to marry you. After an interview with him you will have to take an very long multiple choice answer test to deem your compatibility. After that you must attend a couples class which for us lasted all day sat. Then you get to do another interview and go over your test results. That test will tell the church how much premartital consouling you will need. After you complete that you will have to provide all of your documentation from your sacraments and have one last interview with your priest. I should say though they can/will refuse to marry anyone they feel does not meet all of these requirements before their wedding day. They can also tell you that you have to change your date to accomidate more couseling.



I hope everything works out!